You may have noticed that the title of this post is the same as the tag line on my website. This tagline has an incredible amount of meaning to my personal transformation. I am convinced that the main reason I was never able to stick with making lasting changes in my life was because I was stuck in an old mindset.
I needed to change my thoughts process from scarcity to abundance. See, I was born and grew up in an environment where for the first 12 years of my life everything was in short supply. Growing up in small military towns in communist Russia, I experienced things like no running water, shortage of groceries, hand me down everything, etc. I still have very faint memories of being a small child and waiting for the water truck to show up and my mom standing there with large water pails waiting to fill them. I remember standing in line for over 2 hours with my mom waiting to buy fresh eggs.
These scenarios may seem shocking to you, but to me that was normalcy, it was all I knew at the time. The real shock came when my family moved to the United States and everything became so readily available. We literally went from nothing to everything – well, in my eyes at the time it seemed like everything. I remember going to the supermarket, seeing shelves fully stocked with products I had previously only seen on TV, I remember trying foods I’ve never tried before and it all tasted so amazing.
Here is the thing though, even though my environment changed – it took years for my mindset to catch up. For a long time I lived in this all or nothing mentality, that underlying fear that things are too good to be true, that eventually all that abundance will disappear.
It has led to my initial struggles with food. When you grow up with nothing and are constantly being told “don’t waste food”, “you have to finish everything on your plate”, “it’s a sin to throw food away” – you take those words with you into adulthood. There was a reason for those messages in the situation we were in, I understood it as I got older – but I still could not break the habit of not finishing everything on my plate – even if I wasn’t hungry anymore, there was this obsession with never wasting food, not throwing anything away – that subconscious fear of scarcity stuck.
I don’t know exactly when I recognized it, but once I did – I knew that the only way for me to change my behaviors was to change my mindset. The scarcity mindset wasn’t just affecting how I ate, but it affected my friendships, my relationship with my husband and the way I was raising my first child. I wanted better than that for her and for myself! It took a lot of personal development, therapy and connecting with like minded people to start making changes. I am still a work in progress – I am still ever changing and evolving.
I couldn’t have done this without support though. This is why I went back to school, this is why I became a holistic health coach. Because I can give you all the nutrition tips on the world – but if you don’t believe that you deserve better in life, you will never follow through with those tips.
This is what I help people overcome. So, if you feel like you’ve tried it all and nothing is working – reach out to me for a free consultation. I may be able to help you break through your blocks.
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